Lately, they've started to get bothered by everything I do on social media, asking questions like who saw my stories. Their comments about my clothes have seriously started to make me uncomfortable. I can't tell if this is jealousy or if they're crossing my boundaries. What do you think?
I've experienced something similar. My boyfriend initially fixated on who viewed my stories, then started commenting on the clothes I wore. Honestly, it didn't seem like jealousy to me; it felt like pressure. He kept insisting that I dress more appropriately, and in the end, we couldn't have a conversation about it. You should try to establish your boundaries from the start.
I think you should sit down and talk clearly with him/her. Ask directly, "Why does my outfit or my social media post bother you?" See if there’s a logical reason in what they say. If it’s just superficial excuses, it could be something else.
What I'm trying to say is, you're posting stories but everyone on your friend list can see them, right? They might think you're sharing it specifically for someone. Are you being transparent? Sometimes, we actually trigger misunderstandings.
This is usually referred to as the urge to control, and it's not healthy in most relationships. People can turn jealousy into pressure under the pretext of concern. If you can't maintain your own boundaries, you've started to accept external interference. If it is increasing, I recommend talking to a therapist.
Let me say this: It wasn't like this at first. At the beginning, they used to make comments mixed with jokes, but now they have started saying serious things like, "If you're going to wear that, we shouldn't go out." It feels like I'm always the one being blamed on social media.
But this became clear with your last update; this isn't just jealousy. It's direct pressure. If they're saying "let's not go out," it feels like they're trying to control your life. You've caught on early, so it's important to draw this line.
