Today, when someone said at a gathering, âa womanâs breast isnât as beautiful as itâs made out to be,â there was an awkward silence at the table. Some men were quite upset, while others said something like âthe mystery is more impressive.â To be honest, I get annoyed by the way womenâs bodies are rated piece by piece, but on the other hand, peopleâs tastes can vary. Do you think menâs obsession with breasts is really exaggerated, or are those who say this just having different tastes?
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13It might be a matter of taste, but talking about it like that in front of women feels off-putting. Making a list of someoneâs breasts, hips, and waist seems very immature to me.
Not an exaggeration 
Let me say it as a guy, not everyone falls for the same thing. Some love memes, some faces, some voices, some attitudes. But because the obsession with memes is so loud on the internet, it seems like everyone thinks that way 
Well, women talk about shoulders, arms, neck, and voice just like men. When it comes to menâs breasts, thereâs immediately objectification, but is womenâs appreciation innocent?
The difference lies in the style. Saying âI love shouldersâ is one thing, but judging a woman as an object by saying âthis body part is exaggeratedâ is another. Itâs not very hard to understand this.
Itâs not a problem to have an interest in body parts by itself; the issue is translating that into language that devalues, compares, or pressures the other person. In a partnership, there is not only appreciation but also respect and privacy.
What really irritates me is this. If someone said, âI donât like that type,â I could get over it, but if someone talked about my body like that, it would really affect my self-confidence. Itâs like everyone is a display product.
I think youâre being a bit sensitive. People have their own sexual preferences, and itâs normal to talk about that. When everything gets politicized, no one can say anything anymore 
Most of the men who say those things get flustered when they see women in real life. Online, everyone is an aesthetic jury member.
I think they love the mystery
If such a topic is to be brought up in a relationship, it should be done without comparison and belittling. âI like thisâ is different, âyours is not like thisâ is different. The second sentence directly undermines self-confidence.
Also, donât forget that women have endured years of pressure regarding bras, body shape, firmness, and size. Therefore, the discussions that men have in cafes about âbeing exaggeratedâ may not seem like innocent conversations.
When looking like Merve, the seemingly small detail here is actually at the center of the issue. If I were in your place, I wouldnât make a final decision without asking about that detail.