My roommate has been dieting for the past few months, but when it comes to grocery shopping, she fills the cart with all kinds of “fit” products. Protein bars, gluten-free breads, avocados… I mean, sure, healthy living is her right, but I have a regular budget. Since we split everything in half, I seriously feel like I’m financing her diet. I think I need to have a talk soon, but I’m a bit hesitant. I’m asking you: What approach should I take on this?
Things like this didn’t used to happen. Whatever was at home, we would eat it; nobody would discriminate. Look, now people are just after their own enjoyment. If they are on a diet, they should buy their own expensive products, why should it come out of your pocket? Speak openly, you shouldn’t be burdened so much just because you think deeply.
Did she used to take things like this before the diet or did she start these gluten-free-zucchini things later? Maybe she doesn’t realize it; after all, you haven’t mentioned that you are uncomfortable.
@dengeliyim we used to shop normally before. It’s been like this for the last few months. At one point, she even complained, saying she was gaining weight, and I think that’s why she started.
@nostaljik96 you’re exaggerating so much about the nostalgia for the old days. I don’t think the issue here is enjoyment; it’s that they aren’t speaking properly about the budget. Someone on a diet should know that expenses will increase; this is where fairness in sharing is necessary. It’s time to sit down and have a conversation.
In such cases, the most logical approach is to separate shared expenses from personal expenses. Split the grocery shopping in half, but the person buying diet-specific products should cover those costs out of their own pocket. Otherwise, constant conflicts may arise. After all, making a diet is a personal decision and shouldn’t burden your budget.
@butceplanlarim that’s fine, but I think the issue of ‘are we living together or apart’ will come up this time. If everyone at home lives according to their own preferences, then why are you even staying in the same house? If it’s something, it should either be shared completely or not interfered with at all 