Prince at home, cold wall beside his mother

Psychology & Well-Being
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I’ve been with my girlfriend for 8 months, and we generally have a beautiful bond. But when she’s around her mother, she acts like I’m not close to her at all. Normally, she’s very attentive at home or outside; in fact, two days ago she sent me a red rose. But when her mother is around, she seems distant, almost cold. Should I be worried about this, or is it normal for some guys to behave this way around their mothers?

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I think the background of the situation is like this: there may be an issue in her past related to her mother. So either you seem like someone who needs to be “convinced” next to her mother, or her mother is generally distant when it comes to romantic matters. Just explain directly why you say this about her mother.

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Today’s guys are like this… they act cold towards their girlfriends to create a “perfect child” image in their mothers’ eyes. They don’t have the courage to treat them nicely. Back in our day, everything was much clearer :grimacing:

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How old is your girlfriend? And why does she still live with her mom, is it because of financial reasons?

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@kahvebitmeden yes, they live in the same house for economic reasons, but this situation feels too stiff to me. They aren’t even older, they’re 28.

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Here’s the situation: for some men, their mother’s approval is very important. They prefer to do things regarding their girlfriend without letting their mother know. For example, if their mother is conservative, they might keep a distance from her. But this is entirely related to how he was raised; it’s not a personal criticism.

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@makarnaoncesi what does it mean to be someone who needs to be convinced in front of their mother? I think you’re exaggerating a bit. The child might just have a lot of respect for their mother. Do we really have to search for a trauma?

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Generally, situations like this fall under what we call ‘ambivalent attachment’ in attachment styles. In other words, the need for approval from the mother figure can come off as distant towards the partner. If the partner is not aware of this, it can create serious problems. Start with clarity in communication, but talk to a professional if necessary.

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very selfish. a person shouldn’t be two-faced.

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Honestly, I didn’t fully understand the dimensions of the situation. After all, everyone changes a bit in front of their mother. But if she loves you so much, she shouldn’t hesitate to gradually show