I have a new relationship, and for the first time, I'm experiencing something this serious, and honestly, we're both a bit inexperienced. When we talked about protection, he said, 'I won't feel anything, there's no need.' This answer shocked and worried me. Is there really such a thing as not feeling anything? Or is he trying to brush me off? What should I do in a situation like this?
I was really upset to hear that. The same thing happened to me back in the day. They said 'I won't feel anything' and refused to accept protection. But I cut straight to the chase, saying 'if you don't protect yourself, it won't work.' That's when they got it. You should also set your boundaries clearly; your health is more important than their pleasure.
What kind of logic is that? He wouldn't feel it. While he's thinking about his own feelings, are you aware that your health is at risk? It would be nice if he got tested first. Otherwise, don't trust him at all; if necessary, completely give up.
Honestly, things like this are no joke. The excuse of 'I don't feel it' is not an acceptable answer from a health perspective. Engaging in unprotected intercourse carries serious risks, including potential outcomes such as infections, diseases, and even unintended pregnancies. The best approach is to talk to a doctor or specialist and have both parties get tested.
Update: I want to add something I've noticed. I considered birth control pills and stuff too, but they always say they're harmful as well. It's like they're only looking at it from their own perspective. Honestly, this stressed me out even more 😅
He told me exactly this, 'So what happens, if something happens we'll just solve it.' I was in shock at that moment; it's your body, but they don't understand that. You need to speak very clearly, otherwise, it's always you who struggles.
Wait a minute, there’s something else here. I think the feeling excuse seems like a pretext, no offense, but it’s pure laziness. It might also be a bit manipulative towards you. If you don’t set your boundaries, this behavior will continue 🫢
