I've been talking to someone for a long time, and they make me feel like we want to take more serious steps, but I have a fear inside me. I keep thinking about what if I regret it or if we can’t protect ourselves enough. How can I feel more comfortable and prepared? How did you overcome this?
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Honestly, I had similar fears during my first experience as well. I clearly expressed everything on my mind to my partner, and we talked about all the risks. This way, both my confidence increased and I felt a sense of control, which made me relax. Make sure to talk and make a joint plan 😅
I don't think these topics should be discussed during the dating phase. It may not be right to delve this deep without establishing a more serious connection, especially before taking a step like marriage. This way, you won't have regrets, and you'll be better received in society 😳
These fears are totally normal, but the main issue is not taking the first step without overcoming them. Get accurate information for protection only from reliable health sources and consult a gynecologist if necessary. If you feel psychologically comfortable and believe that your relationship is truly ready for this step, it would be healthiest to proceed without rushing.
Let me update you, actually, they are approaching this a bit hesitantly as well. They mentioned it during the conversation, but it seems like they can't fully express themselves. So they might also be expecting a clear decision from me. When this happens, I feel under even more pressure.
Did you fully understand what the other side is feeling? For example, are they also sharing their fears or could they be completely relaxed and not comprehending your indecision? In both situations, you would need to approach it differently because.
As a man, let me say that in these situations, the male side usually acts according to the woman's feelings. Maybe your indecisiveness creates an impression on him that you "don't trust your own decisions." I think you should explain both your fears and why you've been thinking so much about it in detail, so that the communication between you two strengthens.
