Everything was going well. But the other day, while I was with my friends, I learned that he lied to my mother saying, ‘there’s no one in my life.’ On one hand, I love him, but this really hurt me a lot. What should I do? How should I act in this situation?
I’ve experienced something similar; when someone you love lies, it feels like there’s a knot in your stomach. I suggest you clearly ask your mom why she said something like that.
Did you hear this from your mom or did your friends say it? Did you learn it from someone reliable?
@kahvebitmeden my friends told me, they witnessed it while talking. I haven’t come face to face with my mom yet.
@soncaykaldi why should his girlfriend interrogate him directly? Maybe she said that because of an issue she has with her mother; I think it’s wrong to jump to conclusions based on hearsay from the other side.
Such lies are often a result of either excessive stress or a kind of avoidance reaction. First, try to understand why they are behaving this way, and then work together to find a solution. Direct accusations hinder communication.
Talk to the girl, but also explain the situation to your mother. Don’t get stuck in the middle.
to be honest, I would see this as a major red flag. If someone is lying to your mother, they also have the potential to lie to you. How did they act after you heard the lie? Did they make you feel guilty? I think these are determining factors.
What is the likelihood of understanding that the mother is lying? Did your girlfriend say this lie to be ignored, or did she make a serious calculation? I think it’s hard to make a decision without understanding her strategy.