Whenever I talk about protection with my partner, they always act nonchalant, saying things like, "there's no need, nothing will happen." But I think about it seriously and feel like I’m shouldering the responsibility all on my own. Do you think I’m overreacting, or is this disrespectful on their part?
I went through the same situation, my partner kept brushing it off saying "it'll be fine." I played it cool for a while, but I was constantly uneasy inside. In the end, I said clearly, "This way won't work, I can take birth control, but you also need to take responsibility." We had a serious argument, but in the end, he agreed to use a condom.
I had a situation very similar to this. At first, the entire responsibility was on me. But then I started to question the relationship. Why would someone put the person they love at risk? I created an environment for confrontation; they had to take it seriously. Otherwise, I couldn't continue like this.
So sorry, but I'm not sure how right it is to just blame the other side. If the guy says 'there's no need,' maybe your communication in this matter is lacking. Instead of labeling it directly as 'disrespectful,' why not ask why he thinks that way?
Protection is a mutual decision and responsibility of both parties. Sexually transmitted infections or unwanted pregnancies can have serious consequences. If your partner is being irresponsible in this regard, it's important to prioritize your own health and future. If you feel hesitant, you can seek help from a health center to discuss this matter in a scientific context.
Let me also point out that I spoke about this clearly a few times, but each time I got a response like "why are you being so uptight?" I thought about birth control pills, but I don't want to take the burden on my own. So it's not just about not using a condom, it's the feeling of carelessness that makes me sad.
This isn't as simple as you say it is, not 'disrespect' or anything. In a relationship, not every feeling is shared at the same time; for example, a guy might be scared but can't admit it. Still, taking this kind of topic lightly is a huge mistake. If there's no open and direct communication in the relationship, there will always be problems anyway.
