It was going to be my first experience and I asked the doctor, "According to the calendar method, is it okay if we protect ourselves today or not?" But it didn't seem trustworthy at all to me. If I say something, it would ruin it; if I don't, it doesn't sit well with me. In such a situation, how can I speak clearly? What if I'm wrong?
I think you should speak clearly because it seems like they misunderstood. The calendar method is not a protective thing, it's just a prediction based on the menstrual cycle. You shouldn't gamble with human health.
I once caused a huge fuss over something similar. The guy says, 'the doctor said,' but he doesn't really know what he told the doctor. Honestly, I'd advise against doing anything unless you're sure you know the facts.
'I got stuck on the part where you said 'I asked the doctor.' What did you ask the doctor? If you thought it was a method to keep track of your period, I don't think you should see that doctor again.
But what I know is that if there's a regular menstrual cycle, she seems to keep a calendar. I've heard that people used to always do it that way.
I can say that there's no reliability in something called the calendar method. Especially in the first experience, taking a risk doesn't make much sense. I used to hear it that way as well, but it's not clear at all.
Calculating safe days using the calendar method can be very misleading because ovulation can vary with each cycle. Quickly picking up condoms from the pharmacy is a better precaution. If you have extra concerns, you can go to the doctor for advice.
You're right, I couldn't trust that "the doctor said" part either. Sometimes everyone interprets things differently, and you just can't be sure. I'll try to speak openly, hopefully it won't go wrong.
You can clearly say, 'Even though I don't understand, it doesn't sit right with me; we can be more clearly protected.' Be insistent on getting a condom from the pharmacy and saying, 'It's important to me.' It's all about consent and trust, anyway.
What kind of logic is this, to be so defenseless over such a sensitive issue based on one person's words? You should also get out of the "I trust the other person completely" mindset; this is a health matter!
