After my first sexual experience, I’ve had mild pain and light spotting for a few days now. It’s not too extreme, but I’ve blown it out of proportion in my head. I thought about going to the gynecologist today, but when I heard the price at the private clinic, I actually turned back at the door. I’m also embarrassed to go to a public hospital, thinking I might run into someone from the neighborhood. My boyfriend says, “it’s normal to have that happen the first time,” but I don’t want to dismiss everything as normal. There’s the health aspect, plus just the fact that even talking about these things can make one’s face flush; I haven’t gotten past that threshold.
There was some spotting during our first time as well, and I had gone to the doctor then. If the amount of bleeding or pain increases, I would suggest not to hesitate because you can’t brush it off as just the “first” time every time.
This happens on the first try, I hope you’re not exaggerating?
@camkenari I said it’s not too much, but I still can’t relax. The pain seems to be decreasing a bit.
@camkenari what a comfort, right? Everyone’s body is different; what’s the harm in getting it checked?
why are you so hesitant to go to the government, doctors won’t tell anyone about someone who comes from the neighborhood.
Mild discoloration and pain are generally normal, but if there is an increase throughout the day or if other symptoms add, do not neglect it. You can particularly mention it to the doctor for privacy, and you also have the right to request that your identity remains confidential.
You know those people who say not to go to the government? Don’t you think about how all those people are getting treated?
I don’t think waiting is a good idea; running away from the doctor isn’t a good idea.
Does the issue seem serious enough for you to decide to see a doctor with this much information? If the pain is mild and decreasing, it might make sense to observe it a bit longer. But if it gets worse, it’s important not to delay for a clear solution. Take care of yourself.
You say you turned away when you heard the examination fee, but when it comes to health, this should be a priority for you too. If private care is too expensive, there is the option of state care, so why are you rejecting the options? If it’s about privacy, you now have the right to choose a female doctor.
Those who don’t want to go to the government office are usually either waiting for an appointment or are afraid of the crowd. But you’re in a big city, there are many alternatives. Why did you just turn back, didn’t you even look into places nearby?
Instead of getting mad about the examination fee and turning back, why didn’t you check if there are SGK contracted doctors at the same hospital? Or is it even sensible to go without clarifying the price? For example, now there’s been a waste of time with the same health problem.
Of course health is important, but sometimes our wallet has to be considered too. I think it’s best to do a bit of research and evaluate alternatives. You might even find a doctor you like, and then you wouldn’t even want to think about the consultation fee.
It’s sensible to find out the price before going, of course, but the real question is: why didn’t you consider allocating a bit of budget beforehand for such a sensitive matter? When it comes to health, isn’t it clear that there will be some costs involved? It seems to me that you’ve acted a bit impulsively.