We are still in the process of divorce. At first, my spouse said there would be no demands and that we would resolve everything amicably. But then suddenly the opposing party’s lawyer has come up with additional requests. They said they wouldn’t ask for alimony, but now they are preparing things that will make me look liable. Do you think this situation is normal, or is my spouse trying to stall me?
I think there’s something else going on here. I mean, saying at first that they don’t want anything and then asking for other things through a lawyer… maybe they’ve been pressured by their surroundings, but I can’t quite figure it out.
I had a friend who, during his divorce, said, ‘I don’t want anything from her anyway,’ but then he said, ‘but the lawyer should handle this, otherwise I won’t appear strong.’ I thought I’d write this to avoid the same situation.
Bro, I’m sorry but you’ve been a bit naïve from the start too. I mean, these things can’t be solved with the mindset of “I’ll just look at the words.” Did you write it down? If you haven’t, it seems like you’ve created your own problem.
If things are like this even with someone like you, what a situation we’re in. To be honest, a person should appreciate others and show them the way, but not everyone thinks like you do.
It’s concerning to just throw the ball back with “it’s what the lawyer said, not me.” These kinds of things shouldn’t be given any leeway from the start. 
But it seems like you haven’t explained everything, did the lawyer just suddenly appear? Did you discuss this matter without a lawyer, were you going to go for a settlement? It feels like there’s a detail missing there
@kahvebitmeden we always said it was mutual, but then the lawyer came in and it’s gotten complicated. I think his mother might also be involved.