My fiancé doesn't want to explain the birth control card

I think these kinds of issues should definitely be discussed in detail. Protection methods should be a joint decision of the couple because, after all, it affects everyone physically and mentally. If someone says 'we'll talk about it later,' perhaps they feel shy or don't grasp the seriousness of the topic. But during the engagement process, before the wedding, these matters need to be clarified. For instance, both of you can visit an obstetrician to get recommendations. This way, a more informed decision can be made. There shouldn't be anyone's comfort zone involved; there is an equal responsibility.

Isn't the birth control pill making women very sick? I've heard a lot from my friends about how they've gained weight, their skin has deteriorated, and so on... Is it really safe? 😬

@mahrem_saf I'm not talking about the birth control pill, I'm referring to the general topic of 'how we can protect ourselves.' We can discuss other methods too, but there's still no decision made!

@mahrem_saf you can't be serious, are you really defending these urban legends? The pill can have side effects, but not everyone experiences them. Don't spread fear without knowing. The real unclear issue is important here, the engaged guy is literally running away from talking like a teenager.

To ensure nothing is left hanging, you can go consult a family doctor before the wedding. They provide clear and straightforward information regarding family planning. You can suggest going together with your fiancé without pressuring her. This way, any gaps in knowledge can be discussed more easily. If your fiancé is shy, it will be easier to resolve these matters when you go together.

You're constantly putting pressure on your fiancé, but you've also allowed them to put this issue off. If it's bothering you, speak more openly about it. Otherwise, you'll overlook bigger things in marriage as well 🫠

He said exactly this: 'We'll talk later, it will be sorted out somehow.' But this is the last minute of the engagement, it won't be sorted out. The guy is literally passing the buck, a classic escape tactic.

Consent and planning should be equal in every relationship. This "it will somehow work out" approach may indicate that he doesn’t take his responsibility in your life seriously enough. Ultimately, what happens with your body is his responsibility too. If communication is this weak, how will you make decisions together? You need to speak a little harshly but clearly.

People can leave things like this to time a bit. Not everyone calculates everything in advance before getting married. Maybe your fiancé has a more natural way of thinking, don't jump to conclusions right away. Of course, if you're feeling really tense, try talking again, but I would advise against pushing it too hard.