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Eğitim & Kariyer28 Nisan 2026
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"You wouldn't be worth that much," he said, yet I would have expected him to take pride.

I was negotiating my salary for a new job. I mentioned the figure I wanted in the meeting, and I even noticed that the boss seemed a bit surprised, but in the end, they agreed. When I got home, I told my girlfriend about it, and instead of the support or pride I was expecting, she said, 'You're exaggerating; you're not worth that much.' My morale hit rock bottom. Is it because I stood up for my worth that she reacted this way? Or am I really exaggerating? I'm trying to understand how it looks from the outside.

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I don’t know, but have you sat down and thought about the effort you put in before talking about this salary? You get up in the morning, go to work, maybe doing tasks you don’t even like. That salary is your reward. If your partner can’t see this, I think the problem isn’t with you, it’s with them 🤷‍♀️

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kirmizikazak

But why did your partner say that? Has anything similar happened before? Or is this the first time? It felt really strange, because I think if you give a bit more detail, we'll understand better.

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aklimkaldi

@dedikoducu is actually not doing this for the first time, they usually don't show support in such matters.

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makarnaoncesi

@mesafe_emekci don't you think you're being a bit exaggerated? Maybe the girlfriend really thought the salary issue was too high and that's why she said it. I wish people wouldn't immediately jump to 'the problem is with the girlfriend' 🙄

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icimdengecmis

From an HR perspective, companies make salary offers based on the employee's skills and market equilibrium. If they offered you that salary, it means you deserve it compared to those around you who are 'doing.' Your partner's comment seems unnecessary and destructive.

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fazlakurcalama

@atismaci yeah, that's true, but her boyfriend is really putting her down here. Is it a healthy approach in a relationship to say "This is all you're worth" regardless of the salary amount? A partner should support, not hinder.

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