Today, during a meeting at work, my boss leaned in unnecessarily while asking me something and almost whispered in my ear. Everyone in the room was present, but nobody said anything or acted as if they noticed. I find these kinds of actions disturbing, but the other female employees either seem used to it or don't care. Do you think this is a clear boundary violation, or am I overreacting?
I think you’re being a bit too sensitive. They leaned in to ask a question, maybe they just wanted to hear you better. It’s not right to jump to the conclusion of bad intentions immediately. Besides, they did it in front of everyone; if there were any ill intent, it wouldn’t be so obvious anyway. 😬
In my old workplace, the manager's gaze was always on me, it made me uncomfortable, but no one said anything. Over time, I started to doubt myself, I even thought, maybe I'm being too uptight. But then I left, and once I got out of that pressure, I realized it wasn't actually normal. Seriously, I understand you.
Is this the first time he's doing it? Because I had a friend who said about his boss, 'Every morning somehow it ends up on my desk.' Maybe you have a recurring situation too.
@laf_alintilayan actually this isn't the first time, but it's the first time it got this close. It seemed like they were getting too close when talking before, but it wasn't so obvious.
What kind of logic is this, is there really such a thing as "if they did it in front of everyone, there can be no bad intentions"? @ters_kose Are you serious? The harassment you mentioned often happens right before people's eyes so that no one can say anything.
The border violation is obvious. It already depends on whether you're bothered by it or not. If the employees are ignoring it, it suggests they've either gotten used to it or are afraid, but that doesn't mean it's normal. There needs to be an environment to express this, perhaps with HR if possible.
@beden_savunucu You say it’s HR, but is it really that easy? One word spreads, and your name gets out there as a talent scout. Plus, it doesn't seem like there's anything major going on; wouldn't it be better to take it a bit more calmly so that people don’t get too worked up?
