I was very close with my friends because of the person I loved, but I acted very jealous towards them. Now my relationship with both of them is not the same, and I feel lonely. Could I really manage both of them at the same time? How can I get close again?
I don’t think you could manage both at the same time.
I also had a falling out with a friend because of my girlfriend. In situations like this, it’s important to reestablish balance from the beginning, as it’s hard to fix things later.
So, was it worth it? Are you still with your girlfriend?
@yazipsildim yes, we are together. But honestly, I’m not sure if it was worth losing my friendships.
@aklimkaldi it seems you’ve been concerned about their closeness with your partner from what I’ve read. The jealousy issue should be resolved between you and your partner; it was wrong for you to confront them.
If you’re upset about the damage to your friendship, you can openly apologize and explain the situation. If done sincerely, it usually gets a positive response. However, if the foundation of the friendship has cracked, it might not recover.
@hatconene is it really right to say this so definitively? The person who asked is already regretting it, there’s no point in pushing further.
Think about why you’re projecting your jealousy towards your partner onto your friends before talking to them. It seems like the real issue here is your dynamic with your partner. Otherwise, there’s a high chance you’ll experience the same thing again in another setting.
If you’re going to get closer to your friends again, have you thought about how your partner would react to this situation? Could it cause a new crisis? It seems like you need to clarify that from the beginning.
Could your partner have interfered in something or led you on? Sometimes, an outside perspective changes everything. Do you remember how it all started?