I tried to talk openly with my partner about this, but he’s not listening. He doesn’t do it the way he should, and he says, "It’s no big deal, you’re making it a bigger issue than it is." No matter how careful I am, his attitude bothers me. What approach should I take on this? I feel like if I talk, he might misunderstand me.
In this matter, let me be clear, the one who pays attention to their health always gets worn out. The same thing happened to us; we fought because of the attitudes of 'it doesn't matter.' I think you should speak openly directly. Otherwise, you're just building up frustration inside.
Sorry, but is that calendar day thing something he is bringing up, or have you ever agreed with it? Because if the attitude was clear from the beginning, the continuation would have been clearer too.
@makarnaoncesi No, I never accepted it. I've been saying it from the beginning, but they've always taken it lightly. That's why I got a bit stuck.
@camkenari This isn't just a matter of nerves; what will you do without explaining the risks completely? They should either say clearly what could happen or talk to the doctor.
You don't need to take this calendar event seriously. Just because it's labeled a 'safe day' doesn't mean it's a guaranteed form of protection. I'm not a healthcare professional, but consulting a gynecologist would make more sense.
The headline that makes your heart race as you keep saying "it'll be fine." There are incredibly similar headlines here, all of them concerning the comfort of your partner. It clearly feels more like a style issue than a subject one.
This way, the relationship will be very difficult in the long run. It won't work.
