I felt a bit strange. I secretly found out that my partner is talking on WhatsApp with their ex. They say itâs just friends, but something is stirring inside me. What should I do? Am I overreacting?
I had a relationship where we would say âweâre just friendsâ and continue chatting with an ex. It lasted for 6 months. In the end, she chose her âfriendshipâ anyway. Just saying.
How did you learn these conversations? Did you see them directly or did you hear them from someone else?
@soncaykaldi yes, I saw it directly, the phone was left on by chance.
@camkenari you are really looking for bad intentions all the time. Everyone has the right to be friends with their ex after all.
There are missing things here. Who started this conversation? How often do they communicate? I think these are important details.
the real issue is your partner hiding something like this. even if the content of the messages is innocent, the fact that itâs being kept secret is ultimately undermining trust.
wrong. clear. no need to talk.
What else could they be hiding? You wouldnât even know if the phone was off. Question this.
You call what you see a âcoincidenceâ just because the phone was left on, but what if itâs not a coincidence? Did you have something you were suspicious about deep down, which is why you paid attention? I think you should clarify that first.
Why didnât they carry the worry of being seen while the phone was still on, even if the conversations were innocent? Normally, someone wouldnât take such a risk; they would be careful. Maybe they donât care or they donât have anything to hide. Have you considered this possibility?