I feel like I’m being constantly manipulated, but sometimes I tell myself, ‘No way, you’re just being paranoid.’ For example, my partner gets involved in everything by saying, ‘I’m thinking of you.’ I mean, who I’m meeting, when I’m coming home, and so on. Do you think this is love or control? Honestly, I’m having a hard time deciding, and I need your thoughts.
Honestly, I feel like this situation has nothing to do with love. Saying ‘I’m thinking of you’ and interfering in everything seems to me like an attempt to control. I went through something similar; I needed to set clear boundaries. Maybe you should sit down and talk openly.
My ex-girlfriend was always interfering in my life with the same excuse, saying things like, ‘I don’t want anything bad to happen to you.’ But actually, she wanted to control every step I took, and then I realized it. I don’t think you’re paranoid or anything; you could really be toxic.
But think for a moment, are you aware of how you made them feel? Maybe they have had very troubled relationships and are acting extra protective. Isn’t it a bit hasty to jump to the conclusion that they have bad intentions? 
In such situations, border violations can often occur under the guise of ‘good intentions.’ Love is confused with control. You can try to explain to your partner that you need your own space and that this is healthy for your relationship. If necessary, you can seek support from a therapist.
I want to add that, for instance, whenever I’m going out somewhere, he constantly says things like ‘you’re a woman too, be careful.’ I mean, it seems like he cares about me, but this constant checking has started to feel overwhelming. After he said that, I saw things a bit more clearly.
How long has he/she been acting this way? Was it like this at the beginning of your relationship, or did it increase over time? Maybe he/she was more relaxed before, something changed, and now he/she started acting like this.
But I don’t understand this, you’re questioning whether it’s control or love, but the guy is openly saying ‘I’m thinking.’ Maybe he’s doing it because he really cares about you. It’s not right to always look at it from a negative perspective.
I’m sorry, but protecting women in our society is a priority for us. I think you might be misunderstanding because your partner is looking out for you. Women are always in danger, so don’t confuse that attention with love.