I have been with my current girlfriend for 6 months, but lately, she has started to be very controlling about intimate matters. Even though I don't feel ready yet, she keeps hinting and making digs. Is this normal in relationships? Is there a problem between us?
So how long has this been going on? It's been 6 months, but how many weeks have you been talking about recently? Were there such oppressive behaviors before, or is this a completely new situation?
Pressuring someone on private matters without consent is definitely not a part of a healthy relationship. It's very important to openly discuss boundaries with your partner. Especially since these topics are sensitive, it's expected for the other party to understand. If necessary, support can be sought from a couples therapist.
I think there is definitely a problem. It's not normal because you said you weren't ready, but if he keeps insisting, it's disrespectful to your boundaries. Men need to be patient about this 🙂
Now, I don't mean to be rude, but if you're not doing anything either, you're probably leaving the guy unsure. If he's hinting at it, maybe he's expecting a clear answer. Some relationships make decisions earlier, so why don't you clarify the situation?
After a few of your messages, I thought I'd give some details: I've never felt pressured in the relationship before. But for the past month, this topic has been brought up more often. I don't understand where it's coming from, and it feels really strange to me 😬
A serious conversation is definitely necessary. If they clearly say "I'm not ready yet" and still put pressure on you, I would suggest reevaluating the relationship. If there are no other issues besides this one, perhaps you could consider couples therapy.
I don't know, but it feels like there might be something else besides you not being ready. Could someone around you talking about marriage or engagements be affecting you? If this started suddenly, there might be a reason for it 🤷♀️
