My boyfriend bought me a necklace for my birthday, a very elegant piece but a bit ostentatious. As soon as my mom saw it, she asked where it came from. When I said it was from my boyfriend, her face literally dropped. She started saying things like, ‘How could you afford such an expensive gift?’ Now I’m hesitant to wear that necklace. Is my mom right or is she overreacting?
my ex had received such a gift, and my mom had seriously freaked out. She kept bringing it up, saying things like, ‘What’s the point?’ Eventually, I stopped wearing it just to keep the peace. But deep down, I was really upset; after all, my partner had thought of me and gotten it.
How old are you and did your mother know about your relationship with your girlfriend before? Because it seems like she knew but reacting this way is a different matter.
@iki_dakika knows, in fact, they’ve been my partner for a long time. But sometimes they just lash out like this. Usually, they wouldn’t say much.
@makarnaoncesi well, it seems like you just bow down to your mom about everything. Someone thought about it, spent money, and you just don’t care because your mom said so. Come on, I think you should see this as something that could ruin the relationship. With this mindset, you couldn’t even live with someone later.
Don’t view this as a family-opposed or favoritism issue. Generally, such situations stem from generational conflict. You mentioned it looks flashy; for your mother, those types of gifts might mean ‘luxury.’ Perhaps she sees them as expensive and perceives it as pressure to take your relationship seriously. It would be helpful to clearly state that this is not the case.
Anne is right, what’s the need for something so expensive? 