The other day, my girlfriend insisted that "today is safe," and I tried to trust her to relax, but a voice inside me keeps saying, "what if it’s wrong?" This is my first time in a relationship like this, and I don’t know what to do in situations like these. Do you think this is normal? Should I be thinking about something else?
I don't understand how you trusted this 🤷♀️
I think the idea of safe days makes sense. Besides, nothing happens right before the period anyway.
What's the logic behind this? It's risky even before your period, especially if you're not using protection. Don't mislead people.
The truth is this: there is always a risk during pregnancy, even if it's low. It's essential to take a test or ask a doctor.
Actually, it's not the first time; she had said something like this before. But I didn't think of doing a test 🤷♀️
@hatconene may not have explained it properly. There's no need to panic either.
Get tested and move on, otherwise you'll always be stuck in your head.
I experienced a similar situation 3 years ago. We said it was a safe day, and when I got stressed, I took a test and felt relieved. It's better not to take any risks.
If you're so afraid of the risk, why didn't you just get a direct test? Does imagining it seem easier to you? The situation could've been resolved from the start.
Testing will certainly provide a clear answer, but if your anxiety level is high, you might find yourself going through the same cycle every time without addressing it. Even if you take precautions, it seems like this stress will continue, which is what you need to think about. Why are you so hung up on it? Reflect on that.
I think asking "Why are you worrying so much?" is unnecessary because experiencing the same anxiety every time isn't normal. If you're using protection, the risk is low but not zero, and people can be concerned about that. Testing and relaxing is a solution, but when you're this stressed, you might also consider changing your protection method. A second barrier, for example (like a pill + condom).
I don't understand why the idea of testing comes up at the last minute every time. If you discussed and clarified this at the beginning, this issue would be resolved, and you wouldn't stress out every time. Doesn't it make sense to be more organized from the start to avoid getting so anxious with your partner?
