My fiancé follows his exes on social media and occasionally communicates with them. There’s something inside me that feels uncomfortable about this situation. How should he respond to this? Is there really a need for this?
I had a similar experience; I found out that my ex-fiancée was constantly talking to her ex-boyfriends. I spoke openly about it, but it didn’t lead to a solution, and we broke up. Sometimes you have to be willing to take the risk of getting hurt.
It’s rude to ask, how do you know these things? Did you see their messages, or did they tell you?
@kahvebitmeden yes, I heard him say it once, and I saw it on his profile a few times. He even accidentally called someone recently.
@aklimkaldi but you say it yourself, this is not a new thing. If you show this kind of ease early on in men, everything becomes normal. It seems like you haven’t really shown your discomfort either.
there’s a boundary issue here. it’s not the same for everyone, but if it’s something that bothers you, you need to say it clearly. your partner’s reaction will determine the framework for this.
Extra contact with ex-lovers? I don’t think it’s necessary.
The “accidental call” part honestly feels a bit strange to me. So, was it really an accident, or was communication established under a pretext? This detail is important because it changes the matter of intent. If these kinds of things are happening repeatedly, I suggest you think about it.
Staying in touch with ex-lovers is perceived differently by everyone, but here’s the problem: what is your place in these relationships? While your feelings are clear, every moment you remain in uncertainty makes you feel worse. Don’t leave this discomfort hanging.