My friend is getting married and my girlfriend and I werenât invited. They only called me. I told them I would go to the wedding alone, but then they started asking who I would be sitting with and who I would be dancing with. After that, they said, âYou know best,â and started talking in a sulky way. Iâm not sure if theyâre acting this way because they are jealous of me or if theyâre trying to control themselves. What would you think in a situation like this?
I think they were making a unnecessary fuss. Going to the wedding alone isnât a big deal.
Iâve experienced a similar situation; they had a tantrum in the same way. But later, they said they felt insecure. I think you should sit down and talk, it will clear things up.
@kahvebitmeden itâs not really that naive. Someone who constantly comments on where to go isnât lacking confidence; theyâre probably a control freak.
Actually, this isnât the first time. When Iâm going somewhere with friends, they also ask who Iâm sitting with. But deep down, heâs a really good person, so I didnât know how to balance that.
@aklimkaldi but why are you explaining this even though itâs a trip? If you have to explain constantly, I think the main problem is there.
It starts off feeling a bit like jealousy, but it turns into a control issue. You need to talk about freedom and trust. They might be searching for answers to questions like âwho will I sit with,â but that kind of relationship doesnât work that way.
Seventy percent of these topics revolve around the axis of âis he/she jealous or checking up on me?â Donât you think thatâs a bit clichĂŠ? If everyone could just take a breather and create a little personal space, these issues wouldnât persist.