I'm working at a large company, and recently they offered me a position abroad. The salary is better, and it's a great opportunity for my career, but my partner is acting very cold. They say things like, 'If you go, there won't be a relationship left.' Is it reasonable to go and talk about it, or should I think about both of us first? I'm uncertain; how should I approach this situation?
I'm going to speak openly: if my daughter were to get such an opportunity, I would support her. If your boyfriend is thinking of a serious relationship, he will support you anyway. It's that simple. Don't waste your career; these opportunities won't come around again.
It's really a tough situation. You wake up in the morning and questions like 'Would it be better if I left, what if they're right?' are spinning in your head, right? I was stuck in such indecision too, then I went and talked sincerely. Honestly, things don't get resolved without a conversation 🫠
I'm going to ask something, why did your girlfriend speak so clearly? When she said "there won't be a relationship," she's already blaming you. Do you think there could be a problem there? Because this career opportunity seems to create a weird atmosphere as if it's threatening her reason for loving you.
In such situations, perspective analysis is important both at work and in personal life. If you have a serious bond with your partner, you can make plans together. You might consider seeing a relationship therapist or a career counselor to set your priorities. Additionally, you can research healthy communication methods for long-distance relationships.
You're right, the phrase 'the relationship won't last' really bothered me. I talked a bit, and what he said was this: 'You already rush around for everything, if we go to another country, I'll always be in the background.' When I actually rejected the part about being in the background, a discussion broke out 🫢
Let me be clear, your partner is so possessive that they seem to see your work as a "threat." Maybe there's some jealousy or control issues at play. But let me ask you this, have they ever suggested going to another country with you? Or do they just want you to stay?
