I have been working at the company for 2 years, and I have caught a great opportunity abroad, but my manager keeps hinting with comments like "you'll do better here". Should I ask for opinions without letting HR know, or should I just accept the offer and inform them later? How should one act in such a situation?
So the manager's statement "We're investing in you here" is already very clear. If they're saying that, they want to keep you, but I don't know how much they value your work. Something similar happened to me; even when I asked for leave, they said, "No need, stay with us." But then I ended up stagnating. I feel like the same might happen to you.
Missing out on such an offer would be so terrible... If I were you, I'd think to myself, 'This is the result of my investment!' and accept the offer. After all, he doesn't even dare to say 'Don't go' directly; he always speaks indirectly. I think he's more concerned about his own interests than your life.
So employers have the right to say such things, but you don’t have to accept them. Also, concepts like loyalty are generally not equal in business life; you remain as long as you add value. Asking HR can be risky, as if information spreads in such cases, the offer may deteriorate. It’s better to assess the terms of the offer directly and make a decision.
Let me add that I am already doing my part at the company. I thought about having a one-on-one conversation with my manager, but I don't trust him that much because he had previously guided someone else this way, and then that person left the company. So I'm not sure if there are other things going on behind the scenes.
Let me ask the owner this: So if you leave it here and go, will you leave your back clean? The company has invested in you, okay yes, but you have also worked with these people. I think you need to show some empathy; that's what my reasoning tells me.
What we need to pay attention to here is this: The boss is talking about an 'investment' through you but disregarding your work's value and your decisions. You don't even need permission to live your own life. Loyalty is supposed to be a two-way street; they shouldn't forget that.
I think you should have a direct one-on-one conversation with your manager. Tell them that you've evaluated the offer without involving HR, but you want to share your thoughts before making a decision. If they still speak indirectly, it means they aren’t taking you seriously, then you can accept the offer and put an end to it.
