Recently, my family, especially my mom, has been talking about how I should get married at every opportunity. I don’t feel ready yet and I’m very undecided about it. Why are they putting such pressure on me?
I had a similar situation with my mom. When I was 27, she was officially trying to marry me off, and they just wouldn’t understand that I wasn’t ready yet. It caused a strange distancing between us that lasted for 2 years. The pressure is exhausting.
families are a bit right. as we get older, these things get harder. it’s not our place to speak to our elders, just take care of yourselves.
@kahvebitmeden it seems like everyone has to get married just because they reach a certain age. Can’t things be resolved through conversation instead of pressure?
it’s best to be straightforward. just say you’re not ready so your indecisiveness isn’t misunderstood. vague things create tension.
How old are you, then? Why might your parents be so concerned about you?
@pazardandondum I’m 28 years old and my mom keeps saying, ‘Let’s be at the age to enjoy grandchildren.’ They’re literally pushing me according to their own plans.
@aklimkaldi the grandmother’s comment about the grandchild was kind of expected, but it’s really silly how she does it as if disregarding your decision. Wouldn’t it be better if you talked about it instead of bringing it up in a way that could upset everyone?
Is it your family or yours? Make a decision already.