The other day, my cousin heard that my girlfriend’s mother was making assumptions about me. After that, there was some distance between us, and we didn’t talk at all. But I didn’t hear what she said, so what can I do in this situation? Why does she get affected so easily? I’m afraid that this will ruin my relationship with my family because of the gossip.
I’ve experienced a similar situation. My girlfriend’s cousin was constantly gossiping with her mother. At first, I didn’t pay much attention, but then I started hearing ridiculous things. It really ruins the vibe when stuff like that happens.
Families need to talk as soon as these kinds of things come up. Everyone is acting like they’ve grown up but are still childish. If no one gossiped, these things wouldn’t happen in the first place.
But why are you reacting here without even knowing what you mean? Maybe it’s something exaggerated. You’re creating a cold atmosphere and making things really tense.
Talk openly about this with your partner. Find out what her mother has said, whether your cousin has done any gossiping between you before, and get the facts straight. But I think you should stay calm. Don’t let it drag on.
How was your relationship with your girlfriend’s mother? Was there any tension beforehand? I’m curious.
@pazardandondum this isn’t actually the first time something like this has happened. They had commented before when I bought new clothes, saying stuff like “did they buy this too?” There’s always a hint, you know.
Before the coffee is cold, it’s a problem to take gossip seriously as much as it is to carry tales. Why does trust break down immediately?
I think you’re overreacting. Just talk and move on.
definitely talk to your cousin.
Your cousin is reporting what his mother said, you’re getting mad at your cousin, but what’s your partner doing in the meantime? Are they talking to his mother, or just watching? I think you should question that part instead.