I was going to a job interview with my cousin, and my mom came along. While I was looking around, my mom said, “If you don’t want to work here, there are others.” Now I’m really confused; I don’t want to apply for this job, but my family is insisting on supporting me. It feels like it would be a great sin to go against them.
my mom was like that too. once when I applied for a job, she even tried to pull some strings, that much. but then I realized I was always going with what they wanted, I had left the job I loved. I think we should talk openly.
family are the only people who think about you in the end. if you make a mistake, they will pick you up. I think you shouldn’t make a big deal out of it, just listen to what your mom says.
Sure, family loves, but will everything be decided by them? If a person can’t choose their own life, what meaning does it have? No offense to them.
to be honest, it’s better to reject a job you don’t want right from the start. once you’re in, it’s harder to get out, and family also becomes more dominant. be clear about it.
So why did you apply for this job? Did your family pressure you, or did you want it yourself at first?
@pazardandondum actually my mom brought it up at first. When I insisted a lot, I said ‘maybe I’ll try it’, but deep down I never wanted to.
@kahvebitmeden you’ve romanticized the situation a bit too much. Yes, families make mistakes; but ruling over someone’s life is another thing. Support and intervention are different.
I think if you don’t want to go, don’t go; there’s no need to prolong it.
directly tell the family to look for the real job you want. It’s important to draw the line from the beginning even while job hunting, otherwise they’ll keep going like this.