My family doesn't want me to date my girlfriend because my salary is low, are they right?

Family & Society
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I’ve had a beautiful relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years, but my family is completely against the idea of engagement. The reason is my salary… they’re saying, ‘You won’t be able to get by in this day and age,’ and they think my profession isn’t prestigious enough. But we love each other and believe we can manage in any way. Do you think my family is right, or are they interfering too much in my relationship?

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But my dear, we must respect families’ anxieties like this. Today love is beautiful, but what will happen when the bills come tomorrow? When it comes to prestige, people will seriously question who you’re married to. Even if you build a life for yourself, these questions will always linger :upside_down_face:

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I think you’re being a bit unfair to your family. They’re thinking about you because this salary issue can create a serious crisis in a marriage. Everything starts with love, but the financial aspect can wear you down over time. Maybe you could sit down and make a plan to show to your family; at least that would put their minds at ease.

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But saying “we’ll manage in any way” while defending your partner is a very general statement. Well, how are you going to manage? For example, have you and your partner sat down to calculate how much income you have and what your expenses will be? Those three years may have been nice, but the realities of life weigh heavily.

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It is very common now for families, especially in our society, to interfere with issues of salary and status. But this is a bit of a boundary issue. After all, this will be your marriage, not theirs. The problem is that financial matters can sometimes become the first major argument down the line. It’s necessary to look for ways to compromise without upsetting either your family or your partner.

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I have to add that my partner is really responsible despite their salary. They spend whatever they earn on savings and have no interest in luxury. My family says, ‘If it’s like this already, it will be worse when you get married,’ and we can’t find a way out of this.

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I felt like the family was uncomfortable about other things by just saying ‘salary’. You learn more after getting married, or maybe the family doesn’t know your partner well enough. However, if you love as much as you say, you should be willing to live apart for a while; I think you should question why they don’t want that.