I’m only 22 years old, and my skin has always been a bit problematic. Now my mom and sister are pressuring me to get some cosmetic procedures done, saying they feel sad seeing me like this. But I feel like I’m not ready for it, and on the other hand, I feel bad looking in the mirror. What would you do? Family pressure or self-confidence?
I also struggled a lot with my skin for a while. My mom kept taking me to the doctor, and even though I didn’t want to, they planned laser treatment at one point, and I felt really bad about it. Then when I talked to the dermatologist, I realized that they were actually pushing for it because they were worried about me. So, it seems that resolving the issue is kind of about communication.
If you’re bothered by this so much, it makes sense to see a dermatologist first. Instead of going straight for aesthetics, it might be better to learn the source of your skin issues and get treatment. I’m sure they’ll take a step to understand you. A doctor’s opinion generally brings calmness to everyone.
So what exactly is this thing they call aesthetics? Is it lasers, like some filler stuff? Are they just talking about external appearance for your skin, or are they considering the health aspect too?
If I were like your mother and sadly watched you, maybe I would do the same. Because we care about our children so much… But the question is, how much do you want to change this situation or not? That’s important. I would say sit down calmly with your family and talk.
I’ve noticed that I don’t really know the details of what they call aesthetics. They always say it’s something that will improve the skin, but to be honest, I haven’t asked what it actually is. On one hand, you’re right, I need to know what we’re going to do first. Otherwise, it feels like we’re just putting it off 
Planning aesthetic procedures without consulting a dermatologist is very risky. Most acne scars or active issues involve underlying skin problems, and aesthetic treatments do not resolve these. Your skin should be examined first, and you might even need a hormone test. Nevertheless, stress also significantly affects the skin, so don’t overlook that.
I understand you, because looking in the mirror and feeling bad is very disheartening. But there’s also the fact that families sometimes act wrongly while wanting the best for us in these situations. The place where you resist this aesthetic pressure is important, otherwise your self-confidence can be shaken. You say it’s always been this way, but the process of change requires some effort as well.