My mother has looked through my daughter’s WhatsApp messages and told me everything. I don’t know how to react when I heard this. Sometimes I think she is overly intrusive, but this is how the rules work within the family. It seems like my daughter doesn’t trust my mother either. How can I resolve this situation?
My mom had done things like that in the past, and we used to fight a lot. Kids are individuals after all, so you can’t really know what they are writing or talking about. It would have been more beneficial to sit down and talk instead.
If this is how you say the rules are within the family, then you shouldn’t worry about it. After all, your mother didn’t do it with bad intentions; she’s just curious about her grandchild, clearly. Such things don’t seem strange to elders.
@kahvebitmeden what does their curiosity about their grandchildren have to do with it? Has it violated privacy? Not everything adults do is right; why are you normalizing it?
As a result, your daughter may lose trust in you. I think you should explain this clearly to your mother, that such behaviors destroy the trust environment. If this happens frequently, you can also get support from guidance at school or something like that.
How did your grandmother see the messages? Did she look secretly, or did she ask openly? This is an important distinction.
@pazardandondum hasn’t secretly looked, my daughter left the phone on the table, and my mom picked it up and fiddled with it. Then she told me about it, I don’t understand her intention.
@aklimkaldi isn’t this secretly taking it already? It’s not right to take it without notice after all. Think of your daughter’s phone like a private space.
Talk to your grandmother and draw a line, otherwise it will happen again.
that’s very shameful.