My fiancée has been frequently commenting on her ex’s posts and sending heart reacts to their stories for a few days now. At first, I didn’t find it strange, but suddenly different thoughts started to emerge in my mind. I don’t know what this situation means for her. Everyone here says she’s just trying to make me jealous, but I don’t know what to do.
my ex-fiancé did similar things. He was constantly talking to his ex, at first I didn’t mind it, but later I discovered that I had been cheated on. So be careful, some things aren’t “jealousy”, they’re actually bad signals.
These kinds of behaviors don’t belong in a relationship. If you’ve made a promise to someone, you shouldn’t look back. Doesn’t the heart he/she puts in those stories hurt your family’s pride? I think you should talk about this seriously right away.
Honestly, it seems like you’ve set the bar a bit high too. I mean, just sending a heart on a story? Maybe they’re not a cold person and did something friendly regarding old memories? Why are you generating variations directly instead of just asking?
In such situations, I think you should first have a calm conversation and ask, ‘Why are you doing this?’ Don’t wear yourself out searching for something on your phone or try to take the upper hand. Clearly express how you feel and listen to their response.
Where do you see your ex’s story and stuff? Are you following it or is your fiancé? It seems like a bit of a strange equation…
@pazardandondum my fiancée is following, I saw it from there. Actually, it’s not the first time she’s done this, it’s been happening more frequently for the past few weeks, but it’s increased lately. I’m hesitant to talk about it because I feel like it would come off as ‘you’re exaggerating.’
@hatconene are you serious? How many people find it normal to “hang out” with their ex in a friendly way? What you wrote is quite confusing.
It seems like it will continue as long as you accept this.
something similar had happened to me as well for a while I didn’t pay much attention to it but when I tried to talk about it, it made me feel even more guilty. this situation isn’t getting any better most of the time, I would say stay vigilant.
If you’re afraid to say “you’re exaggerating,” then there is no trust-giving energy from that person. If they’ve been doing it for a few weeks, it means they’ve made it a habit. What you couldn’t stop the first time becomes normal afterwards.