Social media has started to shake my trust

Marriage & Long Relationship
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My girlfriend has started sending friend requests to many people she doesn’t know from the past on her social media account. When I noticed this and asked her about it, she said, ‘I don’t know, I’m just meeting new people in social environments.’ But I don’t feel comfortable; I’ve started to monitor every like, every follow she makes. I know I look very jealous from the outside, but this situation is driving me crazy.

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The part about likes in this job always gets me thinking. What do they like? Is it something in the profile picture, or the overall vibe? For instance, if it’s a revealing photo, the intention is clear from the start, but if it’s something random, it’s confusing. Your girlfriend has sent this, and I think that makes it more complex.

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I wonder how many people they’ve sent these requests to? Do they do this all the time or just occasionally? Because if it’s constant, they must have something going on.

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@sorgukahvesi about 20-30 people or so, but according to what they said, they thought that acquaintance would form from people’s shares. Of course, it wasn’t very sincere in their response.

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I think there’s something strange, but it’s not necessarily bad intent. If they’re doing such a thing, they might either be bored or have some distance regarding you. They may not have fully explained themselves to you, for example. Take a look, have they had any distant behaviors lately?

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you actually seem a bit obsessive here. you’ve started analyzing every like, every follow. okay, you feel disturbed, but if you keep controlling that way, your mind will always be confused. did you clearly express how you feel instead of amplifying it within yourself?

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to be honest, this is about the boundary issue in modern relationships. social media feels different to everyone: some are comfortable talking to strangers, while others see it as betrayal. but if you don’t establish clear boundaries together, misunderstandings will arise. express openly what bothers you.

8

no way. I would directly address something like this.

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Sending requests to so many people isn’t something that can be explained as “it leads to acquaintanceship.” If it were a social environment, you’d already be there with them; why would they take such a path? Just ask directly: “What’s the real reason?” Let’s see what kind of answer you get.