My mother even told me to cancel the wedding on the day the rings were exchanged after learning that my fiancé’s family didn’t wear any gold at the engagement. She wants me to be cold towards them and to openly say they haven’t done anything. But my fiancé isn’t at fault in this situation. We talked about it before, and we know that his family’s situation isn’t very good. There are three months left until the wedding, and I really don’t know what to do.
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6Something similar happened to me. At our engagement, my mother-in-law gave just a gram of gold, but for some reason, my mom commented on it. I was really upset at the time, but I didn’t let it show to my partner. Just be straightforward; you don’t need to defend your boyfriend’s family. As long as you don’t have a bad relationship with your mom, that’s enough 
So, was this never talked about during the engagement? Was your mom also indifferent then, or did it happen later? 
He seems to be bothered by it now, because he probably didn’t notice it at the engagement. But now he’s really holding a grudge 
@aysecik33, honestly, why didn’t you reflect that? I think everyone should clearly know the attitude of the male side in these kinds of things. Things that are constantly tolerated end up becoming burdens later
It’s all a cultural issue, really. The tradition of gifting isn’t just seen as a present, but also as family support. Your mother might be worrying a bit too much, but if these things had been talked about before the engagement, there would have been less fighting. Now it’s time to calmly lay out the account.
I don’t think your mother’s anger can be just about the gold issue. Could there have been an unpleasant incident before? Or did someone imply something else from the man’s side?