I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a few weeks now, and we got close pretty quickly, but everything seemed fine. My mom saw a photo we shared on Instagram. She called me and asked a bunch of questions like ‘Who is this? Are you serious? Where did you meet?’ Honestly, I got really stressed out. I think my girlfriend might be bothered by the fact that there’s an interrogation about someone they haven’t even met or talked to. Should I explain everything to my mom openly or is it better to brush it off? I’m feeling indecisive.
Ah, in this age, youth experiences everything very fast… In the past, families would meet before making acquaintances, and then steps would be taken. Nowadays, everyone immediately presents photos to the public. To be frank, your mother’s inquiries aren’t unfounded. I think you should slow down a bit and, if you’re serious, involve the families first.
If I were you, I would tell my mom directly. Because these things grow when kept hidden, and it will be harder in the future. Also, if a relationship is going to be serious, being open with the family is part of the effort in the relationship. If you’ve shared it on Instagram, we could say that the situation is half open already.
I have a question: how did your mom see this person on Instagram and start questioning so thoroughly? The part about figuring out who they are is even interesting. It seems like your mom has some stalking skills. Because of that, I’m not really sure if your boyfriend would be okay with it.
@skeptik_hesapci actually, I had also written a descriptive caption, I guess that’s where they started asking.
@romantik_nostaljik you’ve exaggerated a bit. It’s always about going back to the past. Now the times are different, everyone is already on social media. Also, it may not be right to open up everything to the family immediately; you need to filter things out at first 
Transparency is generally recommended in family communication, but this depends on your relationship dynamics. If your mother is not overly intrusive, you can establish a balance before sharing non-serious matters. Of course, if you think your partner might react, it’s important to prepare them correctly as well. This is a bit of a balancing act.
Guys, transparency and all that is nice talk, but if you don’t set boundaries with your mom from the start, there might be more interventions later. I introduced my girlfriend to my mom back in the day, and then my mom started meddling in every step we took. It’s best for you to proceed while maintaining a measured distance 