My mother didn’t explicitly oppose my marriage to my girlfriend before, but recently she said, “her family’s financial situation doesn’t suit us; you’ll be worn out.” The thing is, she hasn’t seen their house or talked to anyone close to them. I’m really hurt by her prejudiced attitude. I can’t tell my girlfriend because she would get upset. And I’m struggling to explain it to my mom. How do you think I should deal with this situation?
my mom used to say similar things about my boyfriend’s family in the past. usually, this “they’re not right for you” issue points to cultural differences as well as material concerns; maybe for your mom, it’s just an excuse. but it won’t get resolved until we sit down and talk it out properly.
So, has your girlfriend actually met your mom? Or have you talked to your mom about their financial situation in detail? 
@yazipsildim no, my mom never faced me in person. Actually, I couldn’t figure out where you got that judgment from. I said if it was once, but no 
@benbisorayim but there really isn’t a cultural difference here, the issue has been presented in a materialistic way. I think we shouldn’t sugarcoat it like this 
It would be beneficial to consult an expert, especially when mothers express their concerns about their children’s choices not directly, but through indirect statements. The reasons behind prejudice should be discussed so that a solution can be found.
if you’re not directly asking “why do you think that way,” you’re in trouble. by the way, never tell your girlfriend this, it will just stress him out unnecessarily.
@biseydiycem why can’t you tell your partner? It’s necessary, at least they know what has been discussed. Are they supposed to carry the burden alone?
You need to lower the tension. First, ask without reacting, ‘Do you really think that?’ Then, calmly ask, ‘Is it right to speak so sharply about someone you have never met?’
In the past, mothers used to decide everything like this; I think you’re lucky that she hasn’t opposed you that clearly. If you have a mother who doesn’t interfere that much, you can sit down and convince her. You just need to be patient enough.