My mom doesn't want my boyfriend just because his salary is low

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We have been together for 3 years, and we are quite a compatible couple, but ever since my mom found out about his salary, she has been nagging me. She keeps saying things like, ‘Honey, love won’t put food on the table.’ My boyfriend is a very hard-working guy, but right now his resources are limited, and I don’t mind. How do you think I can explain this to my mom, or should I even explain? Or is it a mistake to continue this relationship?

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Honestly, I totally agree with your mom. Marriage isn’t just about love; you need to think about the life you’ll spend together. Clearly, your mom is thinking, ‘How do you plan to build a life with this kid?’ and she probably thinks he can’t support you with his salary. A girl should be a bit practical; otherwise, you might regret it.

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I think saying job opportunities are limited is a somewhat narrow perspective. Perhaps if he looked for a job in a different place or field, he might find something with a higher salary. Right now, not worrying about this salary is nice, but what will happen if you think about having kids in the future? I really suggest you talk about it and chart a sensible path together.

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Sure, love doesn’t fill the stomach, but is it fair for your mom to be so fixated on the salary? You say the child is hardworking; maybe they’ll improve with a bit of time. Isn’t your mom getting a bit too involved in all this?

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Look, it’s quite normal for families to think that “money matters when building a life.” However, you need to talk openly about these issues with your partner. If their salary is low, why is that? How will you manage the financial aspect of your future plans? If you don’t ask about these things, just explaining it to your mom won’t be enough; the uncertainty within you will also be troubling.

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Actually, let me add this: my mom thinks that not only the salary but also my boyfriend’s family is generally not suitable for ours. She says there are too many cultural differences. But I get along really well with my boyfriend, and it feels silly to mix in the family situations :roll_eyes:

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But I have to say something, they keep talking about cultural differences, but in the end, you are the one living that life, not your mother. If the guy treats you well and is a decent person, what more do you want? Does everyone have a super wealthy-perfect family?