I love my fiancé, but my family constantly makes fun of his salary. They say I could be with someone better. What’s more important, salary or love? I don’t know what to do; I’m very confused. What kind of approach should be taken in such a situation?
I found myself in a situation like that too. My mom used to say, “If you’re happy with this man, I don’t care about the salary.” Now, after 7 years of marriage, she was right. The question is: Can you find peace with that salary? Family definitely has an impact, but when you’re alone together, it’s not the salary that matters, it’s the compatibility.
I’m sorry, but why is your family being so detailed? You say you love them, but your family might be right. Maybe they’re not suitable for you. Love is beautiful, but what happens when you face reality a few years later? Your family might not be talking for no reason.
In situations like this, families generally want to see the person’s life become more stable. But putting so much pressure on the financial aspect isn’t healthy. Additionally, it’s important to assess whether he is open to development: How well can he manage with this salary, does he have any plans for the future?
Let me add this, my fiancé is a really good person, but it seems like he doesn’t have much ambition for career advancement. Honestly, I said it could be resolved with love, but my family is fixated on this aspect. I inevitably started to think about it.
There’s a detail here that we don’t fully understand. Does your family really push this hard just because of the salary? Maybe there are other reasons, but they aren’t stating them. For instance, could they be bothered by his behavior, his culture, or something like that?
Ah, that’s so familiar. My girlfriend’s mother did the same thing. As she kept saying, “You deserve better,” it really affected the girl’s mental state. I think you should have a serious talk, and stand up for your own decisions by saying, “Am I supposed to live according to my mom?”
Families often get hung up on salary, because they want security in their own way. But look at it this way, this is a relationship where you are happy. Evaluate your role in building a life for the future. Money doesn’t solve everything, but its absence is definitely felt. You can find a solution by talking it over with them.