My family doesn't want me to be with my girlfriend because my salary is low, what should I do?

Family & Society
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I have had a wonderful relationship for 3 years, but my family is openly opposing it, using my partner’s salary as an excuse. They keep pressuring me to meet someone better. Isn’t love more important than anything else? Or is my family right, and am I the one who is mistaken?

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Well, I just experienced something similar. My family was also saying ‘let her work’ for my spouse, even though the guy didn’t have any issues, he just had a low salary. I think you should listen to your family, but also ask your heart. I didn’t listen, and thankfully I’m happy, but I always felt that pressure.

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Families often have concerns related to security. Try to openly share your partner’s future plans with them. It’s more important to show a vision rather than just discussing salary in communication. This way, their anxieties may decrease.

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Let me ask you something here. Could they be using problems in your relationship as an excuse instead of salary for your family? When someone says ‘there’s something better,’ does it always have to mean money? Maybe they see some other deficiency. Think about it :grimacing:

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I noticed that my mom is actually more troubled. When she says, ‘She should do her life with someone proper,’ it seems like she’s worried about things beyond just money, but she doesn’t provide details. My dad straightforwardly cuts it off by saying, ‘He doesn’t have the financial means.’ My boyfriend tried to explain planning and stuff, but they didn’t listen.

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I went through a similar process too. But to be honest, the salary issue kept coming up later on. We couldn’t do everything we wanted, and my family said we were “right.” But was it overcome with love? It was. So, be realistic in your final decision.