I want to get a nose job, but my boyfriend is against it

Body & Self-Confidence
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I’ve always been uncomfortable with my nose; even during high school, I used to feel insecure about it. Now I’ve started thinking about aesthetic procedures, but my boyfriend doesn’t approve at all. He says, ‘You’re beautiful for yourself, not for anyone else,’ but my confidence is seriously in the gutter. Should I do it for him, or just for myself? What if it turns out worse afterwards?

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I was always uncomfortable with my nose too, so I got it done when I went to university. At first, I had fears, thinking, ‘What if it doesn’t turn out the way I want?’ But once I chose a good doctor and paid attention, the result was amazing. Now I’m much happier, and my self-confidence has improved. If you feel like doing it, go for it, it’s really worth it.

3

Look, the most important thing is choosing a doctor. Find a good surgeon, read the comments from their patients, and if necessary, talk to their former patients. And please, take a sample photo; in places where you can’t explain yourself, the photo you show can be a lifesaver. There’s no rush in this matter.

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If someone says to you “You are beautiful for yourself, not for anyone else,” then they should respect how you feel. If you want to make a decision about your body, that is completely your right. Your boyfriend should be a source of support, not a gatekeeper, or else he should step back.

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But here’s the thing, there aren’t really people whose lives suddenly change like in the movies after getting cosmetic surgery. You might fix your nose, but if your self-confidence is still affected, you might need to look for the root of the issue elsewhere. Have you ever thought about that?

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If being uncomfortable with your appearance affects your daily life, I think it’s not just an aesthetic issue. Talking to a psychologist can help you understand why your self-confidence is so low. Whether it’s an aesthetic issue or not, the real solution lies in the source of these feelings.

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Thank you all, I was really quite indecisive. By the way, the things my boyfriend said are bothering me. I’m not actually afraid that he doesn’t love me, but I feel guilty that he doesn’t want to change me. Do you consider this normal?

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To be frank, I would question why your boyfriend is “not open at all”. My own opinion is that maybe he is jealous of you looking different or he doesn’t want you to attract attention. Generally, such objections hide other concerns.

9

Believe me, this is entirely your instinct to protect. Many men feel more intimate with a girl who isn’t conventionally attractive because they can establish a natural connection. This is actually evident from the saying, ‘You are beautiful not for anyone else, but for yourself.’ They have a different perspective on the matter.

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Dude, I understand you so well. We feel like we have to look perfect on social media. But I think what you feel is what matters. That kid is here today and gone tomorrow; when you look in the mirror, you’re always there. If you want a nose job, go for it :slightly_smiling_face:

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It seems like what your boyfriend thinks affects you at certain points, which is very natural. But the main question here is: Are you focusing solely on your own feelings when making this decision, or are you influenced by his reactions? If someone else’s opinion outweighs your feelings about yourself, finding a balance here might be important. I don’t think this is just about aesthetics; it’s also connected to setting boundaries in the relationship. Weigh your emotions carefully and try to be honest with yourself.