I’m deciding to go on a diet, but honestly, my mom is really sabotaging me. She made dumplings for dinner and even asked, “Aren’t you going to eat?” I told her, “Mom, I’m starting a diet,” and she said, “You’re younger, you can lose weight,” and put the spoon in front of me. I couldn’t resist and I ate. It keeps happening like this; whatever my mom does, my diet always gets postponed. What should I do, how can I explain this to her?
My mom is always like that too; just when I’m about to get things done, she puts the food in front of me saying, ‘forget it, you can do it tomorrow.’ But to be honest, I’ve had to learn to hold myself back. It feels like there’s no solution; you can’t change your mom.
But if your mom always does this, haven’t you ever talked to her seriously? For example, if you said you were getting help from a dietitian, would she take it less seriously? 
@seda_123, I’ve actually said it a few times, but they just brush it off saying ‘you’re still too young.’ The logic is that they think I look happy when I eat everything 
I think your mom’s issue isn’t really about the food; it might seem to her that you’re exaggerating the diet. I suggest you sit down and talk; it’s not a big deal to blow it up like this.
Instead of blaming your mother here, you might need to change your communication approach. Perhaps you should explain to her how important dieting is for you and that it affects not only your physical health but also your mental well-being. But of course, her reaction is a show of love; managing this requires delicacy.
@baharrrrr if it were that simple, they wouldn’t even ask here. Everyone has different red lines.
I think in our society, the act of showing love through food is more common. But there’s also the fact that some people don’t care that food can make you gain weight. If the type doesn’t matter, there’s no harm in eating comfortably 
@soran then you may need to reduce your mother’s burden for a while with some excuse. Do you have any ‘non-directly touching’ plans in mind? 
“Yeah, eat the dumplings, you’ll start tomorrow” has become a classic motherly line. Please let us be right in this post. Should anyone really block this? 