I got a cold sore on my lip from stress. When my boyfriend saw it, he joked, ‘You really know how to pick the right time to kiss!’ At that moment, I felt upset but didn’t stretch the topic further. Then, when he joked about it in our friend group, it really got to me. He says he’s just playing around, but I got hurt. Do you think I should let it slide or set some boundaries?
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5Your girlfriend is making jokes about your cold sore, but it’s pretty weird that she’s teasing you this much. I’m thinking of something else – is she trying to show off to the friend group at your expense? Maybe she’s trying to impress someone else or something. I’d say be cautious, that’s how it is 
Honestly, this behavior is not a game, it’s outright disrespect. You need to set boundaries. It’s not nice to make jokes based on your body or your health condition. They should apologize. You can’t just laugh it off; it requires effort and partnership.
@femclash you’re right actually, beautiful words show our love, but in these jokes, it always goes over me. They did this before too.
@femclash let’s not be so rigid; I think the core of the issue is communication. Maybe the guy isn’t ill-intentioned, but he should learn to be more delicate when making jokes. Just tell him openly that you’re offended; he might not even realize it.
These events are moments when certain things are tested in a relationship. If they keep making jokes and forcing you to take it lightly, there’s a problem. Clearly state that you feel uncomfortable 