Friends, there are three weeks left until our wedding. With all the busyness and stress, the thing that has upset me the most I learned yesterday: My fiancé texted his ex. I don’t know the content of the message because he immediately closed it and brushed it off when I saw it on his phone. He used to say they were just friends, but that doesn’t feel normal to me at all. Is it still logical to get married in a situation like this? Honestly, I’m really confused.
I’ll be honest, it’s really not normal for them to do something like this with just three weeks left. First of all, turning off the phone and brushing it off really creates a feeling of deceit for everyone. I think you should directly ask why they wrote to them, how they wrote it, since you don’t really stay friends with an ex. It never made sense to me; maybe you should consider postponing the wedding.
Do you really not know anything about the content of the message? It might be a job or some obligatory topic. Couldn’t you even ask about it? Because sometimes just seeing a name is not enough; one can misunderstand 
@denizdeniz No, I actually asked, but they brushed it off. They said something like, ‘Don’t worry, it’s an old topic.’ But why is an old issue being brought up now? 
Well, honestly, this may not be something to blow out of proportion. To the one asking, why did you immediately jump to paranoia? Texting an ex isn’t directly bad, right? Maybe they are really friends. I don’t think it’s fair to tie every conversation to infidelity 
In these situations, trust issues come to the forefront. What is the source of your doubts? If this kind of situation has occurred before, it might get amplified by the pre-wedding stress. However, starting a marriage with a complete lack of trust can also wear you down a lot. Perhaps you could suggest seeing a family therapist together, so that no wrong decisions are made at the last minute.
@emine8484 Why is she texting her ex? Out of all the people, has she only found him to talk to? It’s truly imbalanced; something like this shouldn’t be done before getting married.
A friend of mine experienced something similar before their wedding; she caught her husband chatting with his ex on WhatsApp. He said something like, ‘I was just messaging to close the chapter on the past.’ They got married, and now the fighting never ends. I think people who get involved in such things before the wedding should think twice.