I had to explain my wedding date to the neighbors because there were curious eyes on me. Now everyone knows my date and keeps asking questions, like “When is it going to happen?” This situation is making me extremely uncomfortable; I feel like I’m under pressure. I’m thinking about what kind of image I will have in people’s eyes. How do you think I can overcome this?
I had the same thing happen to me too. In our neighborhood, once history is mentioned, it feels like everyone acts as if they were part of the organization. It seemed exaggerated to me at first, but eventually, I got used to it; honestly, I couldn’t do much about it.
this is somewhat a matter of our culture. it seems to have become normal for the neighborhood and the community to get involved in the wedding host’s affairs. but i think there’s no bad intention, people are probably asking out of curiosity.
@kahvebitmeden I guess we will swallow everything as a norm then, right? I think people should know their place. No one has the right to interfere in someone else’s wedding organization.
There’s no need to elevate things this much. You can answer politely when asked and not prolong it. Or simply don’t give a date anymore; just quietly prepare.
Why did you announce the wedding date in the middle of the neighborhood? Did you make a collective announcement like that, or did someone learn it just in passing?
@pazardandondum I actually said it while talking on the phone in front of the neighbors. Then it spread, and I couldn’t manage to control it. Suddenly everyone found out, you know.
@aklimkaldi then let me say it clearly, you’ve spread it with your own hands. You need to be careful with things like this, from the beginning.
I think there’s no need to talk, don’t explain anything to anyone. It is what it is.
@cokdaseyapma okay, but why aren’t we focusing on what people are spreading? Why does it have to be on everyone’s lips?