I was counting down to my wedding when, at that moment, my ex sent me a message. They wrote, “How are you?”; I don’t know what to do. I have no idea how my fiancé will react to this, have I caused myself trouble?
I experienced something totally different. A few weeks before my wedding, my ex reacted to one of my stories, which was a pointless move on their part, so I blocked them right away. I didn’t even have time to deal with it during the wedding hustle.
You’ve unnecessarily gotten yourself into trouble. Is it really a good idea to chat with an ex three days before the wedding? Your fiancé would be very upset if they found out, and if your marriage starts like this, it won’t work.
@kahvebitmeden come on, you’re exaggerating. The girl just received a message, she didn’t even talk. If her fiancé is making a big deal out of this, then marriage will be difficult.
“Don’t even bother to respond. Just block them directly. If your fiancée notices this, your only explanation will be: ‘I already blocked them.’ Otherwise, you’ll have a headache.”
So why did your ex write to you? Had you not talked in a long time, or did something happen before?
@pazardandondum no, we haven’t talked at all for 2 years. They just wrote out of the blue, I didn’t even understand why.
@hatconene I think such sensitivities are expected before marriage. The girl is right, but these are things that can be debated.
block and forget.
the same happened to me during the wedding week. I just gave a very short reply saying, ‘I’m doing sit-ups right now, I don’t want to talk’ and closed the topic. I also told my fiancé directly, this is how trust works.
I think the part about why that guy wrote is more important. Is he trying to mess with the wedding, remind himself, or is it something innocent? Not understanding the reason and just saying “block and forget” can be risky; if your fiancé hears about it, there will be ambiguity regarding the other person’s intentions. I would ask directly “why did you write?” to clarify their intentions before blocking.
I suggest saving the message before blocking them. If they later say, “You’re lying, I didn’t write such a thing,” you’ll have proof. It’s fine to question intentions, but also consider the possibilities.