We took a family photo, my spouse is fiddling with the phone, and I noticed they made my waist appear slimmer. At first, I thought it was a joke, but seriously they said, ‘The photo would look better this way.’ Now I’m wondering, are they bothered by my appearance, or do they just imagine me to be more attractive? I have so many questions in my head, and I can’t decide how to feel.
It has never happened to me, but my wife sometimes tries to make herself look slim in the photos she takes. Even then, I feel a bit odd about it; just imagine how you feel… I think your discomfort makes sense because this behavior inevitably makes a person question themselves. You’re probably thinking, ‘How do I normally look?’ or something like that. You really need to talk about this openly.
So, was this the first time this happened? I mean, have there been similar insinuations about your appearance before?
@merakli23 Actually… yes. There has been a time before when they said ‘this dress makes you look overweight,’ but they hadn’t intervened so directly.
@elifce I’m sorry, but it seems a bit overly sensitive. He edited a photo, is there really a need to exaggerate? If he were coming from a genuinely bad place, would he correct it so openly?
Comments on aesthetics or appearance in couples are generally a sensitive area. Regardless of your partner’s intentions, it is clear that you feel uneasy. You might try discussing this at a calm moment, without passing judgment, starting with something like, ‘This change in the photo made me think.’ The main issue is your perception and feelings.
@suleyman_kararli no way, I think you’re the one overreacting. Not everyone may be accustomed to their own openness. After all, what your wife did might have crossed a boundary of delicacy.
I just want to say this from the bottom of my heart: such things wouldn’t happen in our marriages. If your spouse made insinuations like that, you’d sit up straight and say, ‘This is who I am; if you love me, that’s on you.’ But now I see everyone playing games with each other, making corrections, changes… However, isn’t the most beautiful love about accepting each other just as we are?
I’m going to ask you something: What was your facial expression like when you commented on the photo saying ‘look, it turned out nice like this’? Was it admiring or was there a serious critical tone?