My spouse doesn't even say hello when they come home.

My spouse has been coming home lately and going straight to their room without saying a word. We used to sit and talk, have meals together. Now, they’re either focused on their phone or sleeping. I asked if something was wrong, and they said, ‘I’m tired,’ but it feels like an excuse to me. What do you think could be the reason for this cooling off, or am I being too sensitive?

well, this happened to me too, it’s just the same. I realized that work stress had messed everything up. I really pushed into it, we talked. Turns out, they were getting tense with someone at work every day. Don’t act suspiciously, but you should kind of forcefully pay attention and they will open up.

I was wondering about this, has it always been like this? I mean, did it start in the last 1-2 months or was it like this before the wedding too? Maybe it was giving signals before, but you didn’t notice? :sweat_smile:

@elifada it has actually been like this for the last few months, there was nothing like this before we got married. In fact, he was quite devoted to me, sharing everything.

@eren35 I think what you’re saying creates too much pressure. The guy said he’s “tired,” so don’t push him. Maybe he needs some space. Give it a little time :sweat_smile:

this point is critical: “I’m getting tired,” he says, but the change in behavior cannot be explained solely by physical fatigue. Communication is important in such matters. Try to speak openly and without judgment. Sometimes external factors cause it, and sometimes it’s about the dynamics at home.

Can it be left this empty? I would directly ask, ‘What’s going on?’ Just because they have their own space doesn’t mean you can put the relationship on hold like this :joy:

it’s clear: either she’s fixated on something else or she’s no longer finding peace at home. women sometimes push too hard, so give it a little space.

@psikolojikb you’re absolutely right, I’ll try to speak a bit more calmly while still being clear. Thanks for the other comments as well; I don’t think I pushed it too far, but I’ll try to work on that too.