Lately, there has been some distance between my spouse and me, but I was trying to work on it. However, last night, they turned their phone upside down and placed it on the table, then went straight to the room after taking a shower. Not a hello, not a conversation. Moreover, I was right there at that moment. To be honest, this gesture unsettled me. What could be the reason for turning the phone upside down?
I had a similar situation happen to me too; my spouse used to always leave the phone turned upside down for a while. At first, it was eating me up inside, so I couldn’t resist asking. It turns out they had closed some group chats to escape work stress and were placing the phone like that to avoid notifications. So, it doesn’t necessarily have to be something bad, but without asking, there’s not much inner peace.
How long has he/she been acting like this? Is this the first time he’s/she’s done it?
@iki_dakika actually this is not the first time, there has been a distant attitude lately. But the reversal triggered me.
@makarnaoncesi I don’t know if it’s right to approach this so casually. Sure, there might not be bad intentions, but you’re saying there’s also a distant behavior. The guy isn’t doing anything openly, and on top of that, there are these avoidance actions. I think you shouldn’t take it lightly.
Turning the phone face down is generally a sign of personal privacy, but it does not necessarily imply an accusation. If you feel there is a disconnect in your relationship dynamics, attending couple’s therapy may be beneficial. In such situations, don’t neglect to be open in communication. It may help to express your concerns about this behavior to your partner without a tone of accusation.
I swear, I don’t get it—why is it that on this forum everyone’s spouse/partner is constantly either locking their phone or turning it face down? Seriously, who are you people marrying if this kind of stuff is going on? Let us know, for real.
I had a friend who broke up two months after things like this started in his relationship. The guy found someone else, but out of guilt towards the girl, he became extremely distant. I hope that’s not the case with you, but it’s clear there’s an issue. It won’t be resolved without talking.