For 6 months now, our relationship has been officially revolving around just fighting. There’s indifference and a boring routine. When I try to talk about it, he becomes defensive, and I get angry. Recently, there was a day he didn’t come home after work, and I’m filled with doubts. The word divorce keeps spinning in my mind, but maybe I should try harder? What would you do in a situation like this?
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5I would go straight to flirting. I mean, if it doesn’t work out, at least you’ve tried your luck. For example, set up a dinner out one evening, as if you’ve just met. If they’re not interested, that’s another story, of course.
Don’t give more than you deserve. This means that someone who has gone into defense mode isn’t really inclined to build the relationship. In marriage, both sides need to put in effort; you can’t fix it alone. For starters, take some time for yourself and ask how you’re feeling.
You said you’re getting angry, right? Look, this is what got to me. Maybe you get harsh while talking, just check yourself without taking it too seriously. After all, fights are always two-sided. And you say 6 months, but think about whether it’s really right to give up everything at the first argument.
It’s completely natural to have routine disruptions, but not coming home after work is a serious red flag. First, sit down and talk calmly without blame. If it still becomes unmanageable, it might be best to continue with a marriage counselor. Maybe you can resolve things there.
I thought I’d give a little more detail. During our flirting days, he was always very interested, and I continued to trust that. Now he seems like a completely different person. Outside of work, he’s always distant with his phone. Our conversations aren’t helping. Honestly, I’m still not sure; I’m tired of it.