My girlfriend has started following her ex on social media in a way I never expected. This situation is really bothering me. Does this create a trust issue between us? On one hand, I love her, but Iâm having a hard time accepting this. What do you think?
At one point, I had started following my ex as well. I thought he missed me, but actually, he was comparing us. Usually, there are silly reasons behind these kinds of things.
things like this canât happen.
Did you see this with your own eyes or did someone else say it? There are things that are purely based on claims like this.
@soncaykaldi yes, I stalked from my own account. They had blocked me at first, then added me back. We havenât talked about it at all.
now that you know this, @aklimkaldi, itâs even weirder that you havenât said anything. if youâre uncomfortable, just say so, I think itâs better to ask directly.
Youâve checked on your own account, but what is he doing? Are they messaging each other? Maybe heâs trying to gauge the situation, asking, âShall we go back to the way things were?â Or maybe heâs just showing off. I think you can sense the trouble brewing.
@benbisorayim whatâs with the smell of business, maybe they really have just stayed friends. Does everyone think every account is a relationship arena?
You need to ask clearly and look for a safe ground. People can stay in dialogue with their exes, but if this creates discomfort, boundaries should be addressed. Otherwise, constantly questioning will drain you.
I could never tolerate that.
An exâs place is to be left behind. That mindset which normalizes following each other by saying âWeâre friendsâ doesnât inspire much confidence. I suggest taking care of yourself a bit; this can lead to headaches later on.
Well, thereâs something like this, letâs say we moved past the friend zone, but why is the obstacle-removal thing going on? What could these actions mean in a normal friendship? Think a bit.